I was reading an article about grief that gave me some new thoughts to ponder:
I had my notion of grief. I thought it was the sad time that followed the death of someone you love. And you had to push through it to get to the other side.
But I’m learning there is no other side. There is no pushing through. But, rather there is absorption, adjustment, acceptance.
Grief is not something you complete, But rather, you endure. Grief is not a task to finish and move on, But an element of yourself..an alteration of your being. A new way of seeing. A new definition of self. This was written by Gwen Flowers.
We experience grief in many forms that has nothing to do with the death of a person. There are deaths of relationships. Many relationships change as we go through life, some are good changes and others not so good.
Anytime there is a change in relationship it feels like a death and grief can be overwhelming. Divorce is one such change that brings incredible grief to all involved.
Loss of jobs and other changes lead to a sense of wondering who you are apart from what you were use to.
I like this article that I quoted above because I think its healthy to let grief change us instead of trying to rush through it in order to stop the pain.
Acceptance is always the end of the grief cycle. Accepting the end result if its the loss of a relationship, job or a death. Inevitably we have to face reality and it can be overwhelming and altar our personality.
My Pearl today is that the Lord has used grief to change me and break me over time. I have surrendered and accepted each wave of grief as it washes over me. Its like submitting to the potters wheel as he molds me into a new person with each wave of pain.